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Reconsidering Conversational Paths to Growth & Change

10/14/2022

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Amanda Lucas
Dean of Instructional & Professional Growth,
Blair Academy
For decades, the business world has embraced coaching as a path to professional growth; in the field of education, we are a little late to the game. In part, I attribute this to the pace of the school year and the many (oh so many!) hats we wear. It is not surprising, then, that we find ourselves with little space for reflection as we race through the day on the way to our next meeting, or calming the anxious teacher who shows up at our doorway for advice on recent classroom events, or even scrambling to put together the lesson for our next class. More often than not, the onslaught of the day’s activities leave us emotionally and physically drained as we head home to just catch our breath for the evening before gearing up to do it all over again the next day.
Even after 17 years in education and now toggling the past few years between both administrative responsibilities and classroom responsibilities, I still have trouble finding time to pause and reflect on my growth and progress, but it is this very space that offers the reflective judgment needed in order to grow. As campus leaders, I would assert that we have the obligation when faculty seek us out to provide an atmosphere which, in turn, opens the space for change - for our teachers and for us. 

Understanding that we have the power to create the space for change and to facilitate not only sustained but also desired change requires a foundational level of knowledge about how change works. Richard Boyatzis (2006), one of the leading experts in the field of leadership development and emotional intelligence and co-author of Helping People Change: Coaching with Compassion for Lifelong Learning and Growth (2019), has been working in the field of compassionate coaching for several decades. Drawing on longitudinal research, his work rests on five major discoveries for personal and professional growth:
  1. The ideal self, or what you want out of life and the person you want to be – leading to your personal vision.
  2. The real self, or how you act and are seen by others; the comparison of the real self to the ideal self results in identification of your strengths and weaknesses – leading to your personal balance sheet.
  3. Your learning agenda to capitalize on your strengths and move you closer to your personal vision while possibly working on a weakness or two (or working to maintain the ideal current state of your life and work).
  4. Experimenting with and practicing new habits or reinforcing and affirming your strengths.
  5. Developing and maintaining close, personal relationships – resonant relationships – that enable you to move through these discoveries toward renewal. (Boyatzis and McKee, 2006, p. 49-50)

At first glance, it may seem as if Boyatzis’ principles above have little to do with making one’s institution greater, bigger, more innovative, more [insert your own institutional characteristic here]. That is not the case at all. What Boyatzis is suggesting is this: When we allow space for people to find clarity around who they are, this knowledge, then, informs who they want to be. Their passions, combined with their purpose, values, and life experience, inform the image they create for themselves. In other words, as teacher-leaders and instructional coaches we have the opportunity to gift people the freedom to become who they want to become, not who we want them to become. And institutionally, this opens the pathway for innovation and design. We offer them a piece of our institution so that they may call it their own. So that they may belong.
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Figure 1. Components of the Ideal Self. Boyatzis and Akrivou, 2006, p. 627.
While I don’t have all the answers to how we might effectively do this on our campuses, we might turn to those who are already offering routes into creating and establishing relationships for growth and change. In his book, The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More, and Change the Way You Lead Forever, Michael Bungay Stanier offers one practical application route for faculty belonging through “the seven essential questions” of coaching conversations. Each question builds on the information from the previous one by offering the receiver a pathway to talk about what matters most to them – the actual thing before the thing.
  1. What’s on your mind?
  2. And what else?
  3. What’s the real challenge here for you?
  4. What do you want?
  5. If you’re saying Yes to this, what are you saying No to?
  6. What was most useful for you?
Reframing our conversations with a strategic set of questions in your back pocket just might provide the much needed space for your department member or faculty member to open up to what really matters to them. And ultimately, isn’t that what really matters to you?

Questions for reflection:
  • How do you create space for reflection with your faculty members? For yourself?
  • How are you currently practicing directional questioning in your conversations?

Additional Reading:
Boyatzis, R., & Akivrou, K. (2006). The ideal self as the driver of intentional change. Journal of Management Development, 25(7), 624-642. https://doi.org/10.1108/02621710610678454
Boyatzis, R. E., Smith, M., & Van Oosten, E. (2019). Helping people change: Coaching with compassion for lifelong learning and growth. Harvard Business Review Press.
Stanier, Michael Bungay. (2016). The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More, and Change the Way You Lead Forever. Box of Crayons Press.
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